Heart of the Matter eLetters
Relief from Self-Judgment and Judging Others
Let's face it. Most relationships are difficult. Women and men commonly talk about their mate, recent date, parents, boss, employees, and/or children as being “TOO DISTANT.” Understanding the origin of the difficulty can help you get past it.
1. Every human being is “programmed” to build an ego. Our ego is also called our lower or separate self. We begin building it at birth, if not in the womb.
2. The ego is literally built of patterns that step-by-step define us as both solid, and, separate from everything else. This IS HOW we become an INDIVIDUAL.
3. The ego is built out of mental, physical, emotional, breathing, and energy (spirit, life force, chi) patterns. Every pattern is a building block of the solid, separate, individual YOU.
4. We need to be an individual in order to grow, love, and create in the world.
